We have posted many articles about being careful as you meet people online.
While online dating is an amazing avenue to meet your match, you should be smart in this relatively newer way of finding love.
It is almost as if some of their mail is sent automatically, like you are on their list and this is the next standard email that is sent out. When you indicate that you’ll be in their area and would like to get together, they can’t meet you. The pictures posted may or may not be the actual person.
This is a great test; ask to meet them soon after the introduction. Most people who earn a decent living wish to be wanted for who they are, not for their income. Ask the person to send you a picture of themselves via the mail. Notice the background in the pictures posted online. Does it show a big house, a new boat, or something else that yells wealth?
If there are continual excuses, then you know the person doesn’t really live where they say they do, and/or they are not truly interested in you. Yet, scammers will often indicate that they make more than 0,000 a year. Shortly after the introduction, the person asks about your financials as they wish to know what kind of person they are dealing with. They would rather write and they don’t usually answer the questions that you ask. Again, people who have real wealth do not advertise it.
This way, when they get into a jam and request money, the unsuspecting person thinks their investment or loan will actually get reimbursed. In other words, they are really wishing to find out if you are worth their time to scam as you have financial resources to share. So, when a picture flagrantly indicates wealth, one needs to consider if that picture is even real. But, it is easy for a scam to be set up by a foreigner, even one who is not currently in the United States.
An online love interest who asks for money is almost certainly a scam artist.
Remember, they have a plethora of these, but not necessarily of these traits. They state they love you before meeting you in person. Think about your friendships—do they ask you about your financials? Did the person go to a boat dock and simply stand in front of a great looking boat and have their picture taken? One of the more popular scams is to pretend to be a resident who has either recently moved to the states in the last two years, or who is in the process of moving to the states.Did they ask a realtor to show them an expensive house and then have their picture taken at the house? They get called back to their home country, or South Africa, to do a lucrative job, with either really important people or for a really good commission or a big paycheck. Don’t they have friends or family that could help them out if the situation was true?Once overseas, something horrible happens that leaves them broke or close to broke—their money got stolen from their hotel, the taxi cab driver stole it, the airlines forced them to check their luggage and their money was in their carry-on bag that was now checked. If they are asking someone that they barely know, it is either a scam or they have burnt their previous bridges.Whatever the reason, a smart person or one who travels knows better than to let it occur. Either way, do you really want to get involved with this person? They are not on the alumni list of the college they said they attended, and so on.So I told her, if you can't break contact yet, at least stay open to the possibility that he is a scammer and if he asks you for money, promise me two things.First, you won't give it to him and second, to call me so you have the support I know you would need to break contact with him. Let me tell you, it was not easy, but it would have been harder if she hadn't had support from an objective source.There are lots of good men out there to date online.Remember the tips I've shared with you and if you're not certain about someone, write to me or share your story with your friends.They create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love.Some even make wedding plans before disappearing with the money.