You hoped this would go away, but it hasn't because you have been avoiding the issue within yourself rather than addressing it directly.So, spend some time thinking and understand your own thoughts and feelings. Being immature and insecure is OK--we must all begin somewhere, and growth is a constant process. If she has indeed given you no reason to distrust her, it is on you to work on your own insecurity and find ways to lessen the problem.Do everyone a favor and make a clean break, giving both of you time to heal and move on.I've dated countless women and it has always amazed me how little they know about men.
Now, I know what you're thinking: Do I absolutely have to do this in person?Trying to be "friends" is a recently-dumped female's way of saying "I am not ready to let go." However, in some occasions, the male ending the relationship will suggest it.If this happens to you, know that this is a male's way of saying one (or all) of a few different things: Let's have a completely platonic relationship in which we ignore the feelings we had for one another, and even the ones we still have.It may feel brutal in the moment, but truly not leading someone on is the kindest thing you can do.That being said, they may still have an emotional reaction, particularly if they didn't see this coming or they caught feelings. Make sure you've thought ahead so they don't end up stranded, thus blocking your timely and graceful exit.If you're anything like me, you dread this moment because things just went from casual and fun to awkward and serious.If only ending relationships was half as fun as starting one, am I right? I'm here to share my four-step, fail-proof system for how to break up with someone you're casually dating like a pro.What specifically about him, about him and her, about the past, makes you so uncomfortable? And then you can take steps to address these specific issues instead, rather than becoming resentful of her for seeing her group of friends. Maybe you can compromise by not inviting the guy to group meetup all the time, or maybe you won't show up as often when you know he would.What do you think he has done that you haven't? Understand that she is her own person, and has the freedom to do whatever she saw fit to do before she met you. Maybe you and your girlfriend need to talk things out, very openly and honestly, and see what comes up. Here's what you want in a breakup venue: Somewhere relatively crowded with a quick turnaround time. Let me tell you, there is no wait longer than waiting for the server to reappear with the check after you've told someone, “It's not you, it's me." And definitely don't go to either of your houses — that's like break up quicksand. You've picked your locale, you've set up the time to meet, you've ordered your coffee/cocktail, and now they are starring at you expectantly. But how do you let them down as gracefully as possible?There are four things you need to be when ending any relationship: Honest, direct, firm, and kind.